I had my X arrested today

[sleeper]

So today I learn by detective work X is taking kids to a Counselor without ever informing me. We text back and forth, she calling it a "dr appt". I ask what doctor repeatedly and she finally tells me C 's name, he is NOT a "dr" of any sort. I call her on her BS and tell her I'll be there in 5 and should only be me her and our kids (re vitriolic blowup by X when her H and my W were there last time).

X responds this is "her" appointment and I should not come. I arrive anyway, she looks shocked, irritated, sitting on C with kids on both sides. I tell kids how much I care and love them, X begins to tell me "You need to leave" this is a private appt for me and the kids. I remind her the kids are mine too and we have joint custody, I have a right to be there, know what is happening. X's H comes in and starts to video exchange that is totally calm, being sly about it. I tell X's H I can't help but notice his videoing and that I wish he had not shown kids. Ideo he made of X being arrested. He responds DD asked to see it. I respond showing a child a video of what should be an adult matter is "poor parenting".

X asks receptionist for a "private waiting area" and they leave the room. I did not follow but chose to wait for the C session to end. X's H goes into session with X and my children. I hoped to see kids afterward but they all leave out rear exit. C comes out to talk, says they didn't want a "confrontation". We speak briefly about sitch and X's arrest. He repeated a theme from our recent session that my R with kids will be lifelong and this is a temporary situation, comments about DS describing recent huntjng trip with me and how much he live it. He looks pained and regretful it happened, continues by suggesting I make an appointment. I do.

Immediately after making appt I text X infor that I have made an appt for kids and myself and to mark her calendar.

DS looked horrible in waiting room, flush faced like he had been crying. He didn't look at me, DD did and looked sad.

X is treating me as if I have no rights at all. DD stated desire to live with her mother a year ago. DS and I have been getting along great until this. I don't know what to believe anymore.

I know this has upset the children and It appears DD blames me (she already sided with her mother). I believe X was interfering with me and DS before and now initiated "no contact" from him towards me.

I feel basically depressed and discarded. I had to stand up for my rights in my home, she was threatening me and dictating when I could see the kids (on her terms) and refusing to leave. It appears the kids blame me.