KdogGS, sometimes it isn't selfish. For the last year I have been so guilt conscious of everything I have done. My wife had a complaint that I was selfish and spent too much money on me first. She was right, and I spent the next year spending as little as possible on me. Something clicked one day and I said to myself I will not be guilty over any of this. What is done, is done. I know now how wrong I was and I forgive myself for it. I have changed my ways around the selfish person I was. So when it came time to start the splitting of assets a few months ago, he was my guilt playing big time. I don't want anything, I don't deserve anything, the wife isn't wanting as much as she should go for. Anyway enough, this is her journey. So if she doesn't want to fight for the houses, the cars or the furniture, then great more for me. I am being fair, she instigated the lawyers to split the assets, I agreed to her original request of how the split should be, so what is there to feel guilty about? So the end of this, is stop feeling selfish, you in a way have to be selfish. You have to protect you.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
