Nice to hear from you CV, and glad you are finding happiness in all you have going on.

Yes, the A dynamic is no mystery. Chris Rock said "A man is only as faithful as his options" which I think can apply equally to men and women if they are dissatisfied with their marriage.

Ideally the best path is either fix your marriage or get out of it before starting with someone new, but that's a scary prospect that involves lots of fear and risk, so it seems an OP on the side is just so much easier, particularly since it often starts very innocently.

That said, I think these side relationships that can seem wonderful at first inevitably come with a large helping of guilt and misery and probably usually end up that way too.

All stuff I'm sure you know -- good to hear from you.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015