wow, that is very confusing. I'm not feeling well today, but I did read your post and just wondered if there is a OW still in the picture? I really wanted to ML to my ex and he turned me down saying that it would get confusing and I was mad at him for refusing me but reading your post, I know he was right to refuse me. I wouldn't feel comfortble ML to him if he is still mentioning the d word. Yeah, its confusing alright, it sounds like you guys arent' even separated--ML and all. but you have to figure out why both of you started your A and work from there. I had my a because I was so loney, ex worked all the time and was never very physical with me. My OM was great, paid attention to me and for some reason, I could tell this guy anything. I never fought with my husband, I kept it all inside because I figured, if I said what I felt he would be mad and then we would fight and I had fighting. But we are learning to communicate more and more. You can't keep things bottled up inside.
