Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

Thank you very much for offering. I appreciate it.
It was and has been very hard dealing with this. You pretty much nailed it. She does make me feel bad when I bring it up. She resents te fact that I bring it up. Like she told MC she doesn't believe anything positive comes out of it. She points out how she never brings up my past problems. How she doesn't bring up that I was sexting old girlfriends, or that I was a bad father and husband. She says that its seems pointless to bring past problems when moving forward and that doesn't do anything positive. She says that she has faith in me that I am not that person anymore and I should have faith in her that she has moved on as well from that.
We talked a little more about boundaries yesterday and she seemed to understand the reasoning better. I will bring this up tomorrow again in MC
The only boundaries that I have put in place is that she has no communication with OM. This is where there is a thin line and that we need to figure out
We have become really good friends with a couple that is friends with OM
So OM can be around, such as last Saturday at concert tha caused a big fight.
My W now says she is comfortable with him being around because she has no emotions or feelings and said it wasn't a big deal when she saw him and the anxiety is gone.
What i am trying to relay and compromise on is that if we are at couples friends house for a party of big group gathering and he shows up then fine.
What I don't want is her around him when it's just the 4 of them or when I'm not around. I don't want to lose this friendship either and I don't want to tell her that we can't be friends with them. So I'm trying to figure out the boundaries. Does that make sense?