Keeping focus on you, GALing and continue to lovingly detach is probably the best thing you can do for yourself...then you wont worry about what you "should do" because you're already doing it: growing and moving forward in life......if H pops back in and wants to join...nice...but either way you are already on your path.

Having long conversations about your H...w/ his parents and others, trying to figure out the hows and whys may only lead to more frustration for you...in the future you may want to keep the coversations shorter or redirect to focus on the positive things you are doing (and I know we technically shouldn't care, but this way, the parents can relay to H how wonderful and strong you are... lol)

I hope this week is a good one for you!

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope