I went and drove by her apt. as I turned around I saw a white car and I know that this OM drove this brand of car. I confronted him and he got out and started cursing me out. He is a cop in out city and started threatening me that he would arrest me. Ridiculous! Any way, back in June and August I texted him about 5 times asking that he would stay away from my wife and family, but no threats or anything bad, just texts telling him to respect and stay away or I would report the situation to his superiors. My W would say that he would text her and sometimes she answered and sometimes not. In the heat of the moment he put his hands on me to sort of push me away, but I never touched him. I called my W and she came out, it was about 11pm. When I confronted her she said she had decided to move on. Surprise to me as she had been telling me that this man no longer existed, that I was paranoid and crazy and that she had not made a decision as to take me back or not. I told her that she lied to me, to keep him and that she was dead to me forever. I left devastated. Of course I was suspicious as she had been acting unlike her for a very long time now. The usual appearance changes, new things around the house that when I asked where she got them from she would get aggravated etc.