I won't give up II

[Notlikingthis]

Yesterday was a day I knew was going to come eventually but I wasn't expecting a double whammy.

Walking to my car after shopping I see h sitting in his truck. He waves and I smile and continue on to my car. A few seconds later out jumps the ow waving and smiling. I waved and then gave her a quick once-over as she walked into the store. She was either wearing a Halloween costume of she has lost her mind! She is wearing a very short red skirt with a slinky top and red mid-calf height cowboy boots. She looks like a hooker! Maybe a teenager would be able to pull this off but she certainly wasn't. I get in my car and pull out. He honks at me and waves again. I laughed the entire way home.

This morning he leaves a message that I should call him right away. I just got off the phone with him and I am so mad that I can't see straight. He started off with, I need your advice on something and starts in with his story. He must have gone into the store after I pulled out of the parking lot. He tells me that our younger daughter came into the store as they were shopping. He says that they weren't "doing anything" in other words not holding hands or touching in any way. From the way that he was talking, guilt is eating him up. He said they made eye contact but then she looked down, didn't say anything and kept walking. He said he wanted to introduce ow to her. That would have been the right thing to do if he wanted to pass the hooker off as just a friend that he'd run into at the store while shopping for "us" but his guilt got the better of him.

Our daughter is by no means unaware of her surroundings but she is naïve enough that she would have believed that. She and I texted last night and she never mentioned a thing about it. If she were upset or confused she would have brought it up. I didn't mention that to him just now and probably won't. I'll let him stew and think about how his actions might effect not just her but every other family member once they find out. He make it clear that he wasn't putting this on me but just wanted me to know. I didn't offer any solutions. I just listened but he could tell that I wasn't happy by my lack of response.

I need to protect her first but am not sure which way to go with this. I don't want to lie yet I know that this will hurt her very deeply and cause some behaviors that we saw when she lost her grandparents. It took her a long time to understand and many years of counseling to bring her to where she is now. My thoughts are that should this r with he and the ow fizzle, I would feel terrible about upsetting her for no reason.

I apologize for being all over the place here but I know that eventually this will fall on me and I want to be prepared. At the same time I don't want to upset my daughter for no reason should this man come back from fantasyland.