And as far as the reminding goes, don't do it. My H always needed me to (practically) pin a note to his shirt. Guess what? I stopped and he is now forced to remember. I would say 75% of the time, anyway. And the rest, he has to pay the consequences.
He asked me if he could take over responsibility for a bill. He took the cell phone bill. He missed one month, paid two the next, was OK for a few months, and we just got shut off notices. Well, I told him I hadn't budgeted for it and he would have to pay in installments. That got the light going, I think.
It's painful, when I am so organized. Sounds like you are too, so it hurts when someone doesn't do things OUR way. Don't enable him, sometimes one of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to let them fall on their faces and learn their lesson. So, why would our childish Hs be any different?
OK, so, he doesn't pay your d's dance lessons, he will have to face her disappointment. Think he would do that twice?
