Hi all, I would dare to say that I have been away from the boards for about 5 years. My first marriage ended, after I worked like a dog with the help of some wonderful people here. I was remarried to a wonderful man (really) about 2 years ago. We've very recently found ourselves in crisis.
We have four children (all girls) F-9, K-7, E-3 and I-14 months.
My DH is 42 and I am now 28 (regardless of my never aging screen name).
The man I fell in love with was my best friend, we laughed and talked. I loved his sense of humor. He was always very balanced and calming (my rock). Most of all the man loved me. Not that he let me do what I wanted or thought I was perfect, no much more than that, he loved me despite my "crazies". He fought me and made me grow, learn, and change to be a "better woman".
Somewhere along the way we accrued all of this resentment, anger and distrust (on both sides). We've falling out of love and he's ready to get out. He is tired and lost.
I just bought Michelle's book, "The Sex Starved Wife". As sex has long been a source of contention for us, my husband being the LD. It's "helped" to drive the wedge between us.
He says ILYBNILWY and says he is terribly confused. This all really hit rock bottom about a month ago when a girl who stirred up problems in our relationship early on came back to town. He lied about knowing that she was back, and has been flip flopping majorly with which direction he is going to "run" in. This really, really hits hard given the situation I was in the last time I was here. An unfaithful husband and a mess on my hands. (Please feel free to look back through my posts) I got lots of wonderful advice from wonderful people. I am going to read back through some of it, so I can re-receive the advice.
I also believe that some of this may be stemming out of MLC. He is so unhappy with his job and I don't know of anything that hits a man harder than that.
I am in my final semester of school, in December I will graduate with my Computer Science Information Technology Technical Support degree! This is a huge STEP!
I guess I am mostly here to interact with others going through similar things, to learn what I need to learn now and to share my experiences and stories.
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DH: 42 Me: 28 Married: 05/21/2011 4 girls: 9,7,3 & 1 Loss of trust & intimacy ILYBNILWY - 10/2013
