lol Pud. Don't forget, just use your nickname and add DB on the end of it. My nick is TTD DB
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Very cool TTD! I didn't realize you all had actually done this.
Of course, I will have to wait until I can get a decent pic of myself...lol. Right now I look so old and worn out, not my normal shiny self. Too much stress, for sure.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well, H finally had his "man-to-man" with S13. He seems to have taken it fairly well, probably because he already knew the answers to most of his questions. He told me his dad didn't or wouldn't (not sure which) tell him how long they'd been dating - guilt??? He also said H was telling him he should meet OW's S16 as he's got GTA and S13 might like to play it. I have told S13 that he shouldn't use that as an excuse. If he wants to meet them that it's his decision and neither his dad or I should have any influence on his decision. I've also told him that if he wants to talk or ask any questions then he is to feel free to do so. If I don't what he wants to know I will tell him and he can then decide if he wants to ask his dad.
I managed to get the Christmas shopping started. Have to do it a little bit at a time - I'm setting aside a little bit of money from each paycheque for the next month or so to cover it. The day ended up going pretty quickly, despite being in the mall on a weekend - ugh and having to deal with the crazy drivers as well. It was strange not having H and S13 around all day, but I guess I have to get used to that as H has said he wants to spend more alone time with our son. H did text me several times during the day to update on what they were doing which was nice of him.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
That wasn't right of your H to bribe your son to meet her son, especially after the separation agreement. I remember the first time my H had an affair, he took my son out with him and the OW despite me saying that I don't want him anywhere near her!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
A lot of what H does lately isn't right, so why would he be any different with this?
I'm not too worried as my son is still saying he doesn't want to meet either of them. I've made sure that he knows that neither OW or his dad can pressure him to meet her and I'm not going to pressure him not to.
He's not too sure he wants to spend too much time at his dad's place either. Seems the only thing he liked about it is that his dad downloaded a game he wanted onto his computer. He does have the same game on our home computer as well. H actually offered to split the cost and buy the version that can be put on more than one computer.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I'm gonna have to get some new photos - the one I posted on FB is from June (pre-hair style change). Most of our photos are still on H's computer. Must remind him that he's supposed to be putting them on a flashdrive for me. Add that to the list of things for H to deal with.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
You're lucky that your H is still willing to do jobs for you. My H will only do jobs for me if he gets something out of this, such as the sale of the house. That's the only reason that my son likes going to his dad's as well, he gets to play games all the time and eat junk food. H rented out a DVD for him as well, but my son wants H to buy it for him, lol. Well H did promise he'd buy it for his birthday. I'm pleased that your son has decided that he doesn't want to meet the OW and his son. My son didn't have a choice the first time round as he was only seven. He came back home talking about the OW and when I questioned this with H, he said oh he's probably just remembering the time when we all went out together. I knew he was lying and I found out later on that he was!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Teenage boys and their computer/video games LOL . I was thinking of saving up to replace the computer, but maybe I'll get myself a laptop or tablet instead so that I don't have to share with my son. I've got unlimited internet so that won't be an issue.
I made sure that my son has the choice. Of course, by the time the exclusion period is over he may have changed his mind, but right now he sees her as being the reason for his dad not coming home and he doesn't like that. He's probably not far from the truth either.
I didn't mention earlier H's slip of the tongue yesterday. He was loading the game on our computer, turned to ask me something and started the sentence with "darling". After he finished what he wanted he say, he paused and then said "sorry, old habits". He hasn't called me darling in months.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
lol see I told you he's coming round, slowly but surely. He's probably realised he's made a huuuuuge mistake leaving you for her. You've probably got a better chance of getting your H back than I have. It'll probably still take a few more months before he asks to come back, but I feel positive for you
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Too much stress, for sure.
and having to deal with the crazy drivers as well. It was strange not having H and S13 around all day, but I guess I have to get used to that as H has said he wants to spend more alone time with our son. H did text me several times during the day to update on what they were doing which was nice of him.