The tapes are the "keeping Love Alive" series that I got from this board. They came in this huge container. I scheduled a month worth of appts. I made a list with the dates and times for ex and taped them to the container containing the tapes. He asked me again this weekend when was our first session again. I told him the first week of May. I will tell him stuff and about a week later he asks me again. So, like he pays the monthly fee for d dance, so I typed out a payment schedule for the year for him with the amounts. then I ask do you understand this list, can you read it type questions and he says yes, but then always ends up asking me. In our marriage there were things that I just assumed he would know what to do , he is an adult. I felt like I should not have to tell him to do every little thing. example: on Sat. I would go to church at 4 p.m. because when our d was first born that was her nap time, so perfect. It would be just me and her, ex would be doing things around the house and not want to wash up to come with me. I told him that I missed him in church and that I wanted us to go as a family, but understood that sometimes things needed to be done around the house. Well, for the next four years we all went to church separately. When we went to the counselor, this issue came up and he was like well why didn't you tell me. My answer was like I told you years ago. I didn't want to keep reminding him, he is not my child. He is already asking me about the sessions. I think that I will tell him one more time and thats it. The day before the session, I am not going to remind him, I think he needs to take some responsiblity.
