H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I rang up H this morning to tell him not to bother coming round today. He was going to start on the decorating, but the only reason he wants to do that is so he can sell the house. I told him I've been ill and I've got to go to the hospital today for some blood tests. This is the truth, I've had heavy menstrual bleeding for over a week. The doc says it might be the menopause, but he's also going to test me for ovarian cancer as well. I hope it's the former and not the latter! I know that H is being nice to me at the moment because he thinks I'm going to sell the house. As soon as I mentioned that I'm going to seek advice over selling the house, he stopped being nice. I told him I love this house, to which he replied well why do you keep it in such a state then. He said that when the D goes through I'd be forced to sell it anyway. I told him that I'm not going to sign the D papers. He threatened me again and said he'll send photos of the state of the house to my parents. This is empty threats as he probably doesn't remember their addresses! Anyway he kept ranting on, so I said if you're going to talk to me like that then I'm hanging up and I did! I've probably said too much to him, it's probably not the right way to go about things. I'm just fed up of him being nice when he wants something! Anyway as I've been typing this, he's sent me a text to say if I want to keep this house then talk to my mum about what's happening. I'm not going to answer this text nor am I going to speak to my mum about what's happening. I intend to keep things from my parents. If ever there comes a time when my H wants to come back, I want my parents to think positively of him. I read this somewhere on this site that you shouldn't bad mouth your H to your parents because it doesn't look good if you want to try and make another go of it. As for the state of this house, it was like that when he left. When H left, he left the living room half decorated. I will get round to doing it, but at the moment I've got to get better which is my main priority at the moment. Wouldn't it be funny if I am going through the menopause, lol. H won't know what's hit him
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Stick to your guns, TTD. And good job on actually hanging up on him, not just saying you would.
You are right that you shouldn't bad mouth your H to your parents, or friends either, as it could come back to haunt you if you do get back together. It's not always easy though.
Your health is definitely more important that anything. You take care of that first!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Thanks NQ Finally back at home after a trip to the docs and the hospital which is in the next town. Stopped off to top up my wine and lemonade supply as well, lol. No more news from H, let's hope he leaves me alone for now Well if he's still talking about selling the house and D, then he's not going to thaw out anytime soon. I know this house needs some TLC, but it's my home and I still love it Women's support didn't ring me back, so looks like I'll have to make another call to them My son got off safely this morning on his trip It all sounds good fun, let's hope they get a couple of dry days
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Yes, stick to your guns......Do not sell your house if you like living there....It's your universe not your H's.....And by the way.....why dont they call it womanopause instead of menopause....It's a woman thing not a guy thing...Well, in most cases anyways...lol
You will be fine health wise I do believe... You are just to ornary to be ill......
Yes, stick to your guns......Do not sell your house if you like living there....It's your universe not your H's.....And by the way.....why dont they call it womanopause instead of menopause....It's a woman thing not a guy thing...Well, in most cases anyways...lol
You will be fine health wise I do believe... You are just to ornary to be ill......
What's an ornary? lol. If you mean ordinary then I still don't get what you mean. Thanks for the words of encouragement 2old, they mean a lot
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Finally back at home after a trip to the docs and the hospital which is in the next town.
Right, now don’t let your mind become preoccupied with the results of either of those. That’s as bad for PMA as being preoccupied with your sitch .
Originally Posted By: TryingToDo180
No more news from H, let's hope he leaves me alone for now Well if he's still talking about selling the house and D, then he's not going to thaw out anytime soon. I know this house needs some TLC, but it's my home and I still love it
As hard as it may be, don’t answer his calls or texts. Let him leave a message if he calls and don’t respond right away if he texts. (Really need to practice what I preach on that one though LOL ).
TLC on the house will come once you’ve got other things sorted and under control. Decorating classes as GALing you know .
Originally Posted By: TryingToDo180
My son got off safely this morning on his trip It all sounds good fun, let's hope they get a couple of dry days
Make the most of your alone time as well .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Ornary means fiesty and maybe even a little grumpiness...lol I may of spelled ornary incorrectly also...ha...
Fiesty and grumpy eh? You've not seen nothing yet, especially if it is the change I'm going through, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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