2old, I agree. While the vets have said many things that might be true. I still believe this is our area to let off steam, even if it is repeated so many times. What isn't working (for anyone) is the letting off steam, being told what to change/do, and then doing exactly the same thing again without change. That is frustrating to all. That is not to say you are doing this. We are here to help......each other....full stop.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
HWA, we are all dealing with things in the best way we can. Using this blog is definately helpful. And yes, we do tend to repeat ourselves occassionally.It happens, it's okay to. I have had some excellent days of late and know in the end everything will work out for the best.
It's when the bad moments catch up to us that we have to deal with the emotions. It's normal and it's gonna happen for awhile yet. In the meantime I see it like a roller coaster, up, down and all around. It's one hail of a ride so we all just hang on till it's over.
2old, have a very large something of what we're having over on my thread mulled wine or Irish whisky anyone? As my life coach and friend says - Take a chill pill
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
One way to forget about your sitch, have a mug of it, lol. Don't forget the cherry on top
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
2old, all the best for the new trip. No old memories, just new ones.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
So it has been busy of late...My buddy flew out to LA this morning an hour before the shooting he arrived. Anyways, that leaves me strandard at his home as I have not found a vehicle to buy yet. It is going to be a loong 3 days. Today I received an email that should go to my W. It's not hugely important but it is something she should and probably would like to have (her job related kind of thing).
I have not made any contact with her for 6 weeks now. So dark dark it is I just wonder should I forward her the email to her? I guess it really doesnt matter given our sitch. Yes, going dark n/c was and is for me but I will admit I have been hoping she would show something, anything. W seems happy or able to continue with her own version of dark and n/c. Six and a half months and I guess I had better get the hint she is done.....With that said however, still no D filed by her which I am somewhat surprised about....
mulled wine or Irish whisky anyone? As my life coach and friend says - Take a chill pill