Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part V)

[AnotherStander]

Last week was W's week to have the kids. She was coming to pick S10 up after school one day and actually called and asked me if I wanted her to bring me some food, I almost dropped the phone! I did take her up on that, when she dropped it off I gave her a hug and thanked her for being thoughtful. It was the first nice gesture from her in ages, albeit a small one.

Even though D19 has been working at Thrillvania, she hasn't gotten to see the whole park because she works one particular area. She didn't have to work last night so I took her, D16, S10 and one of D16's friends. We went out to dinner afterwards, it was a really fun evening It was rainy all weekend so I mostly just hung out indoors, put the Halloween decorations out and did something I haven't done in ages- played a video game, "The Last Of Us" on PS3 for those in the know Very cool game!

D19 has been staying with me every time she comes in town which has been every weekend since she's been working. I haven't pressured her to stay with me or anything, but she's been choosing to. I've mentioned before that both girls hate talking about our sitch, so I haven't asked why she's suddenly going to W's less. W invited her to lunch yesterday with our other kids and with OM. I overheard D16 last night telling her friend that apparently W and OM got in a tiff and OM ended up not going to lunch with them. W came by my house later to drop off some of the kids' stuff and had some kind of decorated object in her van, I asked her what it was and she said it was for OM's bday. It was a 12 pack of beer with some streamers and stuff on it. W and I always spent big bucks on each other on bdays, so I thought it was odd that OM just gets beer, not sure what to make of that (if anything). Maybe he really is just a friend like she's been saying all along, that seems more like a gift W would give one of her friends than a romantic interest. Who knows.

AS, it is great that you’ve doing all these things for your W, supporting her during these times. Your kids are lucky to have you. Actually, I would say that your W is very lucky too, but for some reason she chooses not to see it.

Thank you, that's very nice of you

I’ve moved to the Midlife Crisis forum with my new thread and answered your last post to me over there. I don’t know if you ever go to that forum, but thanks again for your insights.

I don't, but I'll go find your thread.