Okay so all this is happening, but yet what I'm hanging onto is words like, "He was never happy in our R." I'm guessing I don't want to get hurt again.
I do want to circle back and address the generalized comment of "s/he was never happy in our R" and put that to rest for you standers.
When viewed from the prism of my own MLC, I felt weighed down by the enormity of the day-to-day responsibilities and the world suffocating me to a slow death, I apportioned the vast majority of my blame to Ms. Wonka as I perceived her to be the source of my problem. That is the faulty thinking and rationalizing of the MLCer. When I was 10-feet in deep fog, the world looked bleak to me and I wanted to get the hell AWAY from my marital home as I viewed it as the primary source of my unhappiness.
That is the blinkering mess of innards coming out all over the place from C-3PO.
Which is why it is CRITICALLY IMPORTANT to ignore all silly blather from the MLCer about "never being happy" because it is THE MAIN feeling at that moment. As you all know, feelings can be transient like a passing cotton candy cloud. They come and go.
I would bet if rH asks her H this question sometime today/this week and he'll say "Yeah...that was how I felt at that time. But now...I'm happy and content. And I do have happy memories of our marriage."
Raine, please release these words "never happy in the R" as it has no place in your head space as it is a waste of mental energy.
