hey halo--I know that you just wanted to find out more, I don't even remember where I posted the first time I came here! I like your quote in the end.. "Sometimes you have to look really hard to see hwat others see from miles away!! how true! Dating nowadays no matter kids or no kids--its hard! but yeah, I had a lot of changes at once, the ex told me to move out and we were fighting for a week when I was going to move out, then 2 days later, my company downsized and I lost my job of 16 yrs. So I really can say that I am starting over!!! I went to my parents house for a week (grandmother became ill and moved in with us) but OM kept offering his place--heck I thought I was in love. So I went to OM and for the past three years I have been saving and saving. I went from a $16 per hr to a $9 per hour job. I can understand why ex didn't want to work things out with me while I was living with OM, but he knew I walked away with nothing--I mean nothing from the d and I uesed to hint around to live upstairs in our new home (4 bedrooms--only two used, but he never took the bait, But ya know thats okay because now I can say I did this all on my own--everything I now own is mine, I paid cash for everything. I think ex is a little disappointed that I have a lease. We were talking about apts (he or should I say we own a two family that he rents out) and it can out that I have a lease and he was like its not month to month?, which is what he has. But he came over to visit me and he was really impressed. I guess see is believing. I asked him if he wanted a male or female and he said that it didn't matter. WE are going as a couple. It was so hard--all the counselors under his insurance were booked up!! Alot of people are going through this too! I am actually done with my individual counseling and I feel good about myself now. All this reminds me, when we were married I used to always go credit card crazy and we were seeing a counselor while married and for our anni. I made a happy anniversary card with pieces from all my cards that I had cut up. I think I really blew his mind, because when he came to visit--I bragged how I paid for it without credit cards!
