I guess you are right...I need to let that side of me go. D's called W and asked if they could change the time they spend with me and her....they wanted it longer as they felt that it was too short to get used to one place and then have to move to the other. W was frustrated and wanted them to sign a contract that they would have to stick with this new arrangement. I told her I thought we should do what is best for the D's. She thinks that they should be "fine" with this by now and it is a perfectly normal thing they are going through.