She called me about 15 minutes before the appointment and told me she was going to go with me.
Wow, that's a pretty big step! It's a good sign. Keep in mind that she's still cycling, so when you mentioned that she was cold and distant on the phone the next day that's not really surprising after she opened up that much. Remember that it's not a linear process.
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I listened, validated and took responsibility for my actions doing the meeting. I told my wife that she was very brave for opening up and that I was ashamed of my actions.
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She responded by telling me that she didn’t want me to use our daughter as a way to get closer to her. I am going to think about that some this week and see if there are things I need to do to work on that. I don’t think I really do use my daughter in that way but my wife thinks I so – so I will see how I can improve on that.
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I told her that I had zero expectations and that at this point I didn’t want anything from my wife. That the only thing I wanted was for her to work on herself and do what she needs to do.
This ^^^ is all really great stuff! Fantastic DB'ing!!
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I left the session wanting to call my attorney to file the divorce. I didn’t but I felt like it and still feel like it.
I think sometimes LBS's develop a "I just want this over with" attitude about things and decide to push for D themselves, but think about whether it will really change anything about your sitch. Most of the time it doesn't change a thing. All those feelings and fears and emotions will still be there.
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I don’t want to risk getting my heart broke again. I don’t want to ride the roller coaster again.
That risk is there with your W or any other person you become involved with, is it not?
