So, today was a little better than last time. W was all over the place, with indecisiveness, though. First we were going to go to dinner and a movie, then she said she wanted to stay over and tomorrow she wanted me to load the Gazelle into the car - not an animal - remember Tony Little on those TV commercials - "you can do it!"? LOL. Anyway, on the way to movie theater she decided we should go to closer restaurant and skip the movie. Then after we got back and watched SNL and some other TV, she packed up her laundry and headed back.
She was in a fine mood at the house, but at the restaurant everything was something to complain about. To be fair, it was freezing in there (as is often the case in restaurants for some reason. Is the thermostat under control of the kitchen staff?).
On the upside, she did ask me if I want to go out for a Thanksgiving dinner. So that's one holiday taken care of. Didn't mention my upcoming B-day, though.
As always, she seemed to come up with some reason to tell a funny story about infidelity (is there something Freudian going on there...?). She was telling me about this comedian she watched on Netflix (Bill Burr). So, we watched it when we got back to the house. It was funny, but I squirmed a bit when he was joking about when you work hard to buy a house, then come home and W if banging the neighbor, and then she takes the house.... geez. Could have done without that bit. Awkward....
You may be, lol. We'll start to worry when you bring out the hair dye lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
lol NQ MH, are you going to join our little FB community? If you go to HWA's thread then it'll give you the instructions on there. Basically you set up a completely new account with a new email address and use you DB nickname followed by DB. It's great I set myself up on there last night
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
As always, she seemed to come up with some reason to tell a funny story about infidelity (is there something Freudian going on there...?). She was telling me about this comedian she watched on Netflix (Bill Burr). So, we watched it when we got back to the house. It was funny, but I squirmed a bit when he was joking about when you work hard to buy a house, then come home and W if banging the neighbor, and then she takes the house.... geez. Could have done without that bit. Awkward....
Why do they have to do that? My H was, and still is from time to time, constantly telling me all about his buddy's marital problems and how his buddy's been having an affair for a couple of years now and the wife didn't know or suspect. Almost as though he's using the buddy's actions to justify his own . Maybe in her mind it's her way of justifying her actions?
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I think it is to justify it. She's been doing it since the first time we went to dinner after we moved beyond the daily fighting stage.
She's here now, sleeping on the couch, of course. Came over to watch The Walking Dead and didn't want to drive back in the dark. And need I mention - no bloody dishes still! She's been supposedly unpacking them for 3 weeks at least.
It's after midnight and I am having my usual Sunday blahs x 1000. It's post-vacation reality time. Ugh. I peeked at my work email and have almost 200. That should eat up a lot of tomorrow. Too bad many of them will lead directly to tasks for me.
I'm pondering the FB thing, but being a computer nerd from wayback, I already have several email addresses to manage, not to mention all the other social network sites and hundreds of feeds I follow. I'm already online too much for my own good. But I'm thinking about it. Could be fun.
It is fun MH There's a few of us on there now, it's like our own little FB group As 2old put it DB on FB lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Holy crap DMR, 200 work-related emails? That would totally discourage me from going back to work! I have about 10 voice messages on my phone (I'd have to kill myself if I had 200 ) and am studiously ignoring them. Which just compounds the problem of course, but I cannot bear to listen to 10 voice mails!
My H is also a great one for telling me stories about infidelity - both movies, jokes and people he knows who are unfaithful, and also about people he knows who seem to be going thru MLC! He does not seem to correlate his behavior and theirs at all though. I wonder if this is a MLC trait? NQ's theory that it might be a way of justifying their actions is interesting. It seems so strange that my H is VERY judgmental about other people's actions but just can't see he's doing the same thing!
Another strange thing is that H is dead set against amnesty for the illegal aliens. If I were in love with a foreigner who cannot get a green card, I would advise him to visit, then over stay his visa. And before long, he will be legal. The fact that H is not advising RT to do this gives me great hope.
So, what is up with W sleeping on your couch? Did you use it as an excuse for sneaking in some casual touching? Maybe sitting on the edge of the couch and touching her arm to ask if she wants some coffee or something?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
She was telling me about this comedian she watched on Netflix (Bill Burr). So, we watched it when we got back to the house. It was funny, but I squirmed a bit when he was joking about when you work hard to buy a house, then come home and W if banging the neighbor, and then she takes the house.... geez. Could have done without that bit. Awkward.... 
lol
Came over to watch The Walking Dead and didn't want to drive back in the dark. And need I mention - no bloody dishes still! She's been supposedly unpacking them for 3 weeks at least. 
