A, I am so sorry. I can feel your pain. And I know that you love your h so much.
Here's the thing. He cant hear you. He just can't right now. He may even get angry that you said it is a MLC or depression.
That's because he is in crisis. But, he is asking you for space and you are not hearing him. He needs you to, sweetie.
All the stuff he is telling you it's about, is stuff that can be fixed. All of it. Those reasons are his way of coping with the fact that he cant face the real reasons of why he feels the way he does.
I know it's so hard to get your mind around. I know you are thinking, if I just love him enough, it will be ok.
The thing about his desire, that is depression speaking and can be fixed.
I know you are in school. But is there a way for you to work part time? Forgive me if you have addressed this already. Is there a way for you to figure out how to cut costs in the household?
It is time for you to let him go. That doesnt mean you stop loving him, it doesnt mean you dont care. It is really the ultimate act of love. Allowing him the time and space he asked for to figure himself out.
They do things in this crisis that are completely out of the character. They are trying really hard to work through stuff.
You have had years with this man. Can you give him some time to work this out?
That is the way to honor your marriage.
I know it is so hard. I do. But I know that you can do this.
This is a journey he was meant to go on. But it is a journey for you, too.
If you allow him to walk his, and you walk yours, I promise you will not regret it no matter how it turns out.
Lovingly let him go. That means not allowing his actions or words to affect yours. It means that you love him enough to want him happy and whole no matter what.
You have said all you want to say. He has heard it. No need to say it all again.
Time to move forward with your life.
You will get through this. Trust the process.
Leave him to this, A. Your job is to get out of the way.
