Well, it finally happened--my audio tapes of "Keeping Love Alive" which was recommended by Michelle. Since I'm on my second read of DB, and husband is more inclined to listen than read. Tonight is our d's science fair, so when we get home I will give him the tapes. Everylthing happens at once, then I finally received a call for a marrige counselor and booked three apts and cleared everything as far as insurance goes. the appt isn't until May--guess a lot of couples are having trouble! She wanted some background on us. I told her we have been d for three yrs and would like to reconile and she gave a huh......this is a new one. I asked her what she meant and she said that it was different--don't know what she means by that so we will wait and see! Hopefully, since the appt is in May ex will have time to listen to tapes and then we can talk about it.