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[ShabbyPirate]

I am new to the forum and appreciate all the excellent advice I have been reading over the past few days.

I suspected H was texting OW about a month ago and confronted him. He admitted he was texting OW and that he has been unhappy for some time. I could tell he was VERY uncomfortable discussing this with me. I asked if he had slept with her. He said he had. I told him to get out (this is not his first A). He quietly packed and left. It has been almost 30 days and we are talking peacefully. We have both been to IC, but not MC just yet. I think he may need more IC before we attempt MC.

After the first few days of mourning, I started reading whatever I could get my hands on, including The Language of Letting Go by Beattie. I also started going to yoga three times a week and try to walk a mile every few days. This has helped tremendously (GAL!). I also try to spend time with my GFs at least once a week. I am working on several 180's. It is hard to stay committed to these sometimes.

I am in the house with the children and H has been staying with a friend. He mentioned over the weekend that he would like to move back home into the spare bedroom. I would love to have him back in the house but don't want to be overly anxious. I am afraid the 180s may actually be harder with him here, than having him completely out of the house.

I would appreciate any thoughts or advice.