This is a real and important issue to him. I would take this as a valid concern of his and have a talk about how you can move forward and fix things. You can come up with a plan together.
Agreed, I hope I can do something about it. His lack of desire for me, is a big one too. It isn't about his performance, for everything works fine for himself. It is his lack of feeling the desire. I get this, for I've had it about him in the past.
I deal with depression and anxiety. It wreaks havoc on libido. I know this and understand it, but he does not. He is at a loss on this one.
I worry that someone will come along while he is low hanging fruit. I want to show him with actions that I can be part of relieving the stress. In more ways than one...
This whole thing is so pitiful, and full of woe.
I do find it interesting that he calculated out how much I would get, how much where I am would cost, and seems to care that the amount wouldn't be enough to live or save.
To me seeing a financial advisor, would be a huge step in the right direction. But that would leave his desire still in question.
It seems to me that he is doing the same thing again. Waiting to see if it will go away ( the problem that is ), instead of addressing it. Not worrying about it and allowing for time together to help bonding or reconnection.
It seems as if the only thing I can do is be kind, and just love him.
I guess this is my cross bearing moment in life. Never ever did I think I would feel such misery, grief, and soul wrenching agony.
I hope anyone who is considering doing this to their spouse, walking away, thinks very hard about it.
Get help and be open and honest with the person you married.
Do it in a letter if it is important, but do not walk away...
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
