thank you soooo much charcoal for reading my thread, thanks for giving me a new insight. but yeah I think you are right, ever since ex has told me that he loves me, I have been wanting to be alone more. But it does sux!!! I have a talk with OM and that if he tries to contact me again, I will have to take legal action. I am changing my number today. You are right I seem to be changing myself for everyone else. At least that is what I did when I was married, I was always afraid to be myself. Ex was raised extremely strict and for example go nuts when I polished my nails. Why am I wasting money. But I explained that I like having my nails poished sometimes, make me feel pretty. Again thanks for your input!!!