After a glass of wine, some candlelight and a bubbly bath, I'm not so sure about his honesty.
I didn't actually hear him cancel appointments with attorneys. That is something he would do ... tell me he was planning to file for D just to scare me back into line and then say he had changed his mind after talking. I told him I had hired a PI over there when I didn't ... a tactic I learned from him!
The other thing that doesn't add up is he went to the store to buy some things that he "needed" to take back. Usually that consists of shampoo, canned meats ... things like that. He didn't ask me to come shopping with him, although I offered the day before to help him. I didn't see him bring anything in to pack and he usually piles it up in the dining room.
He had a large suitcase that he brought back (empty). It was in the garage and he brought it in when I wasn't around and packed it when I wasn't aware. When we got to the airport, he pulled it out of the trunk and I remarked on how big a bag he was taking back with him and that seemed like a lot of stuff. He said he had a mattress pad in it and it took up a lot of room.
I didn't think much of it at the time, but I remember him taking a mattress pad back a couple of months ago, so now I'm wondering what was really in the bag. I know there are a lot of sweaters missing from his closet.
He also told me he needed to take some cash back for living expenses. He said he was taking 10K. I saw at least 5 of it. He is scheduled to be back on 11-6 (although he indicated he may change that). There is no way he would need that much money for 2 weeks.
Now, the doubt has set in. I don't know how much is genuine and how much is BS.
Currently, I am the only one in the office who can do the bookkeeping, write checks, process payroll and pay bills and taxes. At some point in our conversations, he remarked that I should teach his brother (who he hired to be his replacement when he's not here) everything I do in case something happens to me. I don't think I'll be doing that.
At this point I'm not quite sure how to react to his contacts. Should I be friendly and accommodating or go back to being a little distant?
He keeps texting that he his glad we are "friends" again. He indicated before he left that he had a lot to think about and didn't know where we would go from there.
He also keeps thanking me (over and over) for being willing to talk and try to rebuild the friendship.
The next time he does that, I am thinking of replying that he doesn't need to thank me ... that I consider him a friend and he needed to talk and he needed someone to listen. That I would do that for any friend.
Thoughts?
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
