I said he took all responsibility for where he/we are right now, but he did sort of blame me for one thing. He said that when I said I was finished (one of my angry emails), he decided he had to make the best of what he had over there and decided to try to make his relationship with her work. I just wonder if that was setting himself up to blame me for the break up and his sitch over there, however it may have turned out.
Or if pursuing her was a last attempt to see if that would bring him happiness since nothing else he has tried has done that?? I think he knows it will never work. Based on what he said about their relationship (and I believe he was being honest - some of what he said was just too much information), they are not at all compatible.
Anyway, I did a 180 and opened the door back up. Now, his confusion, which leads me to believe that he really wasn't ready to toss in the towel.
He did make one interesting comment while he was here and warned me ahead of time that it would scare me. He said when he got involved with her sexually, he knew what he was doing was wrong but he didn't feel any guilt. I replied that, yes, that was scary and left it at that. But, wow. I'm not quite sure what to think about that and wonder why he told me that??
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013