I think your h is in a mixture of replay, depression and withdrawal. He's still very confused about where he wants to be and still hasn't come to the conclusion (yet) that happiness comes from within. He's still trying to find that illusive happiness. Yes, he's doing some thinking and he's realizing that he's burned some bridges and doesn't quite know how to open the door to return home or begin reconnecting w/his family and friends. In time, he will find the key.
Keep the focus on you and no expectations. The heart is always the last to realize that you can move forward w/or w/o him. You are doing great...keeping digging for patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
