I don't like knowing that this is gonna get worse before it gets better. That's a scary thought.
Not as scary once you accept things the way they are. Once you accept that it's not about you. Once you accept that you can only control your actions and reactions. Once you accept that you can choose to feel a victim or you can choose to see that life really is about how you choose to react and overcome things that happen in your life. Let's face it, what she has done, she has done. What she will do, she will do. The question that remains is what you're going to do with your life. How your actions will be remembered by your kids 30 years from now when they look back on this time. The legacy you leave your kids will help them for generations. Or hinder them. But for my money, I say bring on the challenges. I may not know why or how, but I do know me. I know that I'll be able to withstand whatever comes and I know that I'll show my kids how to do the same. I'll also be able to show them how to not give up. To persevere. To have values similar to mine. How to make their own choices and how to respect their mother and father. With or without my ex, those things are important to me. They were then, and they are now. My ex makes her choices and always has. I have always made mine. And will continue.
Have a great rest of your day. Don't worry about her blaming you or telling you things like "why now?" or "it's too little too late." I can tell you I heard those things as well and I changed very little. There were some things of course, but I realized it wasn't about me (a little later in the cycle; I'm human too ) You aren't forcing her to make her choices. Nor should you. She'll make hers regardless of what you do. But you can choose to make yours for you and for your kids and you'll be happy you did.
A 35degree run? Reminds me I have to get to it. I have a mud run coming up with my son and it tends to be cold around Thanksgiving...
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
) You aren't forcing her to make her choices. Nor should you. She'll make hers regardless of what you do. But you can choose to make yours for you and for your kids and you'll be happy you did. 