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Originally Posted By: Pudmuddle
Hmmm...ok. It's amazing to me how he thinks that will help him. Once again only thinking of himself..SIGH.

Yes, call that support group. I know you got great advice from them last time, so maybe you can find some comfort in that. I'm not sure what I would do either, so let us know how that goes.


I will Pud smile It may help someone else on this board as well smile


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TTd, don't you dare give in on selling the house!!!! (Some tough love for ya). Stick to your guns, and your rights. You're right, you don't need that stress right now!

As for your H, if he would listen, which he won't, he sounds like me. I had a truck that I loved. i bought it from my brother because he was in financial trouble. I did a lot of work to fix it up. Then I sold it to pay off debt. It barely made a dent, and before I knew it, I was still in debt and missing my teuck. Still do! cry

Because your H hasn't learned the lessons of why he's in debt, and learned how to handle it properly, he'd likely foolishly blow through the money from selling the house, and be back to square one. eek

As financial guru Dave Ramsey often says: you can't dig your way out of a hole!

Take care of yourself - physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially!!! smile


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Thanks for your supportive words MH smile I don't intend on giving up this house that quickly, I love this house smile The view from my window as some of you know is of fields smile My neighbours are sheep, lol. Well I have got human neighbours as well smile The bus is every 30 mins into town and my Church is just around the corner from where I live!
You're right you know, my H will blow all the money from the sale, I've already thought about this. He wants to carry on renting and keep the money in the bank to gain interest. What he's forgotten about is when we sell the house, we'll get no more money from the government as we'll then have capital. Yet another flaw in his plan!


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Just had a chat with women's support group. They said the problem is that the mortgage is paid off. However, the good news is that he'll have to take me to court which he can't afford to do smile She's also given me the name of a solicitor who will offer me a free half an hour session and is going to re-refer me to their services as I've not yet got an appt for an assessment. In one way I feel like a fraud because although it's not physical violence he was actually being nice this weekend (because he wants something!) She was calling it domestic violence which makes me feel like an even bigger fraud. He won't be very happy when I tell him that I'm not going to sell the house! When I said that, he said I might not have a choice because the creditors may come and repossess the property frown Oh what a lovely time I'm having of it lately! not! lol. It was better when he wasn't in touch with me, 2old you've not had it so good, lol.


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TTD180, don't give up that house. My W wanted to sell both our house and investment property. I/we have spent too many years getting to this point in life, to then sell them and give most of the money to the banks.
I will/am going to fight to have those properties. Anyway they are for my son's futures.
Fight, fight and fight for that house.


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Don't worry I won't give this place up without a fight smile I love this house, even though it needs a bit of TLC at the mo smile


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Glad to hear it TTD. You keep fighting for what you want.


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BTW still working on FB - it doesn't like the surname being DB now. I'll think of something and will set up a page in the next day or two. I've actually looked you up through my main page (don't worry, won't connect to it through that one).


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Doesnt really matter what you use, as long as WAS or friends cannot find it easy. Whatever name you tell us we can then friend you.


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