I think you are seeing some very positives signs from you H. Asking who you were going out with and feeling comfortable enough clean the entire house! Those are big positives if you ask me.
He is starting to notice you living a life without him and he is pursuing you now. Take it slowly, there will be lots of push and pull like this.
You are doing so nicely and I feel like everything you post is exactly in my head too. Keep it up girl!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.