Hey guys. Nero, I wanted to just say something about your post. The thing about this is that we should not be someone else.

We should look inside and change the things WE want to change.

But the very best of who you are - your warmth, your kindness, your sincerity, those things should never change.

There is a difference between stuffing down our essential self and detaching and letting go.

Detaching doesnt mean we shouldnt be who we are.

It means that we are living our lives, being who we are, without being affected by their actions and words.

I do understand what you are saying in that you cant be your old loving self towards your h because that is pressure to them.

But it does not mean that you cant treat them with kindness. It doesnt mean you have to change you in order to accomodate their crisis.

It means that you leave them to their journey. It means that you continue on yours.

Trust the process, Nero. You will be glad you did how ever your sitch turns out.