I've been here for a year. Recently I've gotten advice that made me think and rethink what I thought I knew. The people on this board have the most amazing abilities to make you mad- it's when that happens that you have to think that there is a reason why.
That the anger is misplaced and a closer look is warranted. What is it really? Fear? Frustration?
The dating thing- I did about seven months in, but cancelled that first one. I wasn't ready and it was H pushing me ( a guilt alleviator for him) because he had someone. As a matter of fact, he started up with her a couple weeks after we separated. I actually told my H that if he wasn't happy, he had
I dated twice agin a, the last time as recent as August. H admitted he was jealous and had just began a new relationship with someone else. I still wasn't ready to date so I broke off seeing the guy.
Boils down to that I was still in love. It was a great ego boost, but certainly wasn't fair to the guy I was dating. If your gut says this is a WAW way of letting herself feel better, it probably is
At some point, this becomes about you and the spouse drops out of first place. There is always time to put the pieces back together and put the marriage first afterwards, but you have to have done the work on you first.
