So no longer validate... not sure I agree, as it seems very unDBing... but I see your point with no longer taking c**p. One question that comes up is whether I want to be married to this person any longer - certainly not as she is currently.
Nothing changes in my goal of being more assertive and GAL. Just got invited to make music again, this after having run into another friend while biking (and W returns from her run to find the two of us talking), and having bought a (used) table I like yesterday, without asking anyone.
If W claims I have learned something cultural from her, I can point out that I was interested in the humanities before her and didn't need her to be interested in poetry, art history, etc.
Not much point in having any R talk with this woman just now.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
