my d staving to death, of course I would help her, she is my d and she is only 12 yrs old. So I don't understand that, but can you or anyone say, yes, I will be a good person and behave myself and I will now be the perfect wife, I will try, but there are no guarantees for anything in life. If he wants it so that I say yes, we will go to counseling and rebuild are marriage and we will never hurt eachother again, I don't think anyone can promise that, I can promise that I will try, but I don't know what else to say.