Wow AJM, what a spectacular post. It's so great to hear from you... you really "get" this stuff. Thanks so much for helping all of us.
"But if you change your routine/self, she'll get confused and say how you're a liar and inconsistent etc. She, you, and your kids need to see you being consistently and authentically you. Not somebody who is contorted to "manipulate" your W. Don't twist yourself until you don't know you any longer. Nobody would like you, especially you "
True dat!
Mr J, my W often sings around the house. To me it seems a sign she is at least somewhat content, maybe even working out her issues in her own way. I like it.
What new things do you have going on, just for you?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
