DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

[DTM]

I appreciate the replies and honest feedback, It doesn't scare me away. I can see how trying to help someone and not knowing the entire story is difficult.

It's not all about me, believe it or not. I am and have been giving my W space, as stated in earlier posts, few to no text messages, no calls (except to call the kids), no gifts, etc..I am trying to be the friend she needs and the current husband she doesn't want.
She brought up a R / D conversation last night to which I was very attentive and I listened to what she had to say. Without going through the whole thing she said she feels guilty, isn't happy and will give it until December to see if she gets any feelings back. I offered to move back to NC, among other things...I've done what I can. She is in control and all I can do is show her the new person I am working hard to become...the one that spends all his time with the kids and gives presence to his wife. I do love her dearly and it's more than just a word.