W: Seeing how the kids have been, has really affected me. Its gave me a different perspective on our situation. It's got me really worried and before anything goes further in both our lives I need to know where we stand and what we 100% agree to do.
IF I ever get anything like this from my WAW: Mainly this text would pi$$ me off to some degree. The “What we 100% agree to do” is simply over the top! As I have read your thread she has done pretty much what she liked for a long time and now she is trying to guilt you with the children and making you responsible with this “agree to do”
That said I have no idea how you should respond! I guess the question that pops is what do you want? IMO she is reaching out and yesterday you wrote that she would have to work for it – then make her do this!
So T, what do you want? Do you want to work the possible R?
I would thread very careful if I were you! It seems like every time you pull back she comes at you with blazing guns at first, then guilt and kids. Then when you offer something she simply just goes opposite (I could use some quite harsh words here – but I wont). If you still have any interest in working the M I would properly ask her a question and help her a little in finding the path she needs to walk if she is ever to find her way back to you and the family! She needs help!
Simply ask her – in calm and pleasant wording - to clarify WTF she is up to now. Make her think!
And then just continue living your own life! How was the date yesterday?
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P.S. I would also wait for the VETs before acting on this one
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
