Thanks, BF. I was trying to be careful about telling people about our situation because I didn't want it to look like I was pressuring people to talk to him and tell him what he should be doing.

I don't want to be in a marriage with someone who doesn't want me, so even if he was bullied into coming back - that wouldn't make me feel wanted and loved, ya know? I want him to be with me because HE wants to be.

Our mutual friends are all in Toronto, so I don't get to talk to them too often. I did talk with his best friend a few times about the situation, but I asked him not to mention anything to my H about it. Weirdly enough, he's the guy who is in the process of divorcing the woman who my H had what I'd consider an emotional affair with. Jerry springer stuff I tell you.

Me: 31 H: 32
Married 10 years, together 11
No kids
H moved out to an apt 8-3-13

Experience: That most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn. ~C.S. Lewis