Second MLC?? Is that possible?

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I very much appreciate your comments, Lois B, but I am not trying to control him. I have made it very clear that he has free reign to take whatever path he feels he needs to take for his happiness. And he knows I will accept his decision.

But, he made it very clear when he was here that he considers me, if nothing more, his best friend. I see a friend in pain and while I agree that I should not and cannot (at this point in time) enable his behavior, I think it would do a lot more harm than good, as far as our R goes, to just let him drown.

Just as I laid down my boundaries, he laid down his. One of his boundaries was to stop his employees from making wild speculations about his behavior and to stop talking to them about our issues (which has happened). And some of the garbage I heard was absolutely absurd. They talked about him like he was the most vile letch that ever walked the earth. If I was married to the man they described, there is no way I would not have suspected. (He had an EA before ... I know what to look for.) I know he is no angel, but he is certainly not what they portrayed to me. He has every right to be furious with them.

On the path to repairing our relationship, why should I expect him to respect my boundaries if I don't show any effort to respect his or to try to fulfill his needs?

The man who came home this time was more of the man I married than the alien. I saw the pain in his eyes and I saw his effort to reach out for help. I told him that he has to find his own path and I cannot participate in that journey. But, he knows that I am here to help him find his way.

Isn't that what we want to do?