phoenix: There is something that keeps staying with me. When D went up for her shower, ex started by saying that he can see in D's eyes that she doesn't want me to leave when I am here. He said that since she is only 12yr old and not 18, that we should work all this out. Like if she was going to be 18 this summer, we would not be having this conversation. I found that weird. We both co-parent wonderfully--only thing we do right! He said that he loves me but because our D needs me,
Anita, did you expect him to come out and say I want you back, he is using the D as a pretext for wanting you back.
is that why we are going to conunseling?
You are going to couseling because he has no idea how to heal this relationship.
I have made myself a goal: to clear the air #1 reason to start off with. Even if we don't get back together, at least we will get things off our chests. I tried on my wedding rings this weekend--they don't fit
Clear it later, repair first.
Also, keep in my, you are the one who left and had an affair, it will take years for him to forgive you.
