I have to find a way to tell 2 of our employees (#1 who has been the instigator in adding to our personal problems and the other who is good friends with #1 and just believes what she hears) that my and H's personal life is not a topic of discussion in the office. We've done a lot for them - helping with financial issues mostly - but H and I both feel like we've been stabbed in the back. I know that a person MLC can do a lot of crazy stuff, but the person they have made him out to be is just not possible. I know he may have made a lot of remarks about how "bad" our M was, but I also know he is not the type of person who beds down anything in a skirt. That is what #1 has tried to portray.
#1's days are definitely numbered (we have a project that she needs to complete) and #2 would probably be okay without #1 around, but can be easily replaced.
I'm not a confrontational type person and telling someone to just shut up, mind their own business and do their jobs is not an easy thing for me to do. I need to do it in a way that will not make employees do less than is necessary in their jobs, but will make it clear that their bosses' personal issues are none of their business, especially after they have considered us to be their friends as well as their bosses .
I know when I go in on Monday, I am going to get questions about how my and H's time together went ... unfortunately, they know too much about what has been going on ... they knew I had marital problems before I did.
One of H's issues about not being happy here is the opinion his employees have of him. He realizes that what they think is his own fault, but that's one of the reasons he wants to stay overseas. I want to make it feel "safe" for him to spend more time here. I need to eliminate that obstacle.
I would sure appreciate some thoughts....
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
