lostinpgh, I know what you mean about the relatives and friends pressuring your H. You cannot control what they tell you H, but I would stay away from discussing your situation with them right now. One year ago, when our mutual friends found out about our sitch, the male friend wanted to talk to H right away. I asked him not too and he honored my request. At that time H didn’t tell anybody what was going on with us, so our friends learnt from me, because I accidentally mentioned something and they pressured me to tell them more. So, I finally told them, but asked not to reveal it to H. After a couple of months, when the things were not going anywhere, I finally gave up allowed my guy friend to contact H. Well, you know what it did? Now I know that my H was still trying to decide what he wanted at that time, and this why he didn’t want any of the friends to know. When he was pressured by our friend, he made the final decision, that there “was no way back to M”, his words that he told to our friends. And after that he was “sticking” to his decision (my H is a stubborn one, and once he makes a decision, he sticks to it.) So, be careful with enlisting support from friends and relatives.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
