`I dont want to get hurt by you again, You know what i want but I need to keep telling myself that i trust you have changed' xxx
(my reply: I dont want to hurt you but if you are worried that i will hurt you it means you've got big reservations)
Don't tell her what her feelings mean, that's for her to decide. You need to validate! A validating response would have been "I hear you saying you're afraid of being hurt again, I can understand why you feel that way. It's no doubt going to take some time for you to believe I've changed." Just repeat her feelings back to her and validate them. This isn't a DB'ing thing, it is a FOREVER thing. Always strive to validate :-)
