I don't know Mr J, but I'd think trying something different right now would be a mistake. Better to just stay the course for now... you're so early into this.

You want W to see you as steady... a rock of stability at a time when she is confused and floundering.

Decide who you want to be and don't wavier from working towards that goal.

As for "Being cordial and not pursuing has given her the space to continue her EA with OM."

Remember, you have no control over her A. What she does is up to her. Stand back, be the best you.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl