Second MLC?? Is that possible?

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H has been here for the past 3 days and just left to go back to our overseas facility. He stayed here at the house. We have spent hours talking and he has answered all of my questions. I believe that he has been honest. Some of his answers and some of the things he said stung a lot, so I think he's been truthful.

I suppose that after all the email fighting, I sort of did a 180 and was calm and pleasant. I listened carefully, answered him when an answer seemed necessary and there was no arguing, no crying, none of that. He just came home to a strong woman who let him know she was interested in trying to find a solution to our problems if he wanted to go in the direction. He left saying he was confused ... that our time together had not been what he had expected. He said he thought we were finished.

He had made appointments with two attorneys for his second day here, but cancelled both on the second morning.

He answered every question I asked and even volunteered how he felt and what he was thinking (some of that was scary).

For those who doubt the advice to "push" them toward the OP, it seems to work. He told me a lot about their relationship. He said that when he thought we were finished, he made a decision to try to build a relationship with OW ... that he realized he had made his bed (he said that a lot) and the only thing he could do was resign himself to stay over there and make the best of it. He said he cares for her but does not love her, they fight a lot, there are too many cultural differences that cause problems, the relationship is too much work and it's not supposed to be work. And here with me, although the conversations were sometimes difficult, the entire atmosphere was one of peace, caring and consideration for his feelings and thoughts. I think I made a good contrast, based on what he said about her.

He said he has a lot to think about - for the future of the business, our relationship and what he needs to be happy. He said he isn't happy here in the US but he's not happy over there either. I simply told him to take his time and if he decided that his happiness didn't include our relationship, I could accept that. Then I added that I was do it as gracefully as I possibly could and he laughed.

For the first time in a long time the lines of communication were open. I feel hopeful, but am trying not to have any expectations ... very, very tough.

I'm not sure what to do from here. I know patience is the number one thing and no pressure is number 2. I guess I just keep letting him lead???

By the way, a kind of cool thing was that when we went out he opened the car door for me everywhere. It's been years since he did that.