THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE! Still scared. Tried to find a counselor that would take his insurance. Saw ex sat to pick up D and told hm I am working on getting someone and asked if he would prefer male or female, he told me it didn't matter so I told him I would look for a man. this is so weird, I just got done reading the DB book! D overheard the "I want to go to conseling talk" she is upset, doe not want us to get back together.