Nero - there is a sort of dynamic between the MLC shaping us and our changes in response to it. I am not sure that we actually make the emotional decisions as arrive at them. It is a bit like wanting to be at the end of our journey, whereas the journey ends when we arrive. Ummm this sounds a bit zen, but there you are.
This is so good! Well written and right on!
I have trouble with the decisions, yet they do seem to be being made everyday. What's wrong with zen, I'll take it!
Hi Nero, you do sound good I have to say. It's harder when you've been with him for the duration that you have, but I know you understand that to him this is a friendship regardless of where your heart is, you understand where heart is also, and that's the rub!
I'm beginning to understand that they call this a crisis for a reason. It's not only a personal crisis that they go through, but a crisis that those around them must face as well. And there's nothing easy about this, nor is there a fast fix.
I can say I have truly realized that I must move on. At the same time I do realize there's a part of him that will follow me, but it is up to me to figure out how I will handle that, I know I need to be the focus, as you do.
But also, as I move forward there is also part of me that will sometimes look back because how do you really shake someone who's been in your life for as long as these men have? This is in no easy way, or fun way, but can we make it adventurous, LOL, instead of so lonely and sad?
I was reading something Michelle wrote, about when were in our 20s 30s 40s 50s 60s, we look toward people for different things, makes me really understand that in my 40s the husband I have today cannot meet my needs, nor the needs of someone who has gone off path with him.
I agree, you are handling this and you are strong, and you have been in your own way moving forward. You're okay Nero! Time will heal you, and your H will do what he's gonna do, so why feel bad, he's not!
We will all meet again UR, this is going to be something we all grow from and friends are a big key.
Love all you guys, dm!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
