My W has never apologized to anyone for anything, let alone me. She is never wrong. She probably had to look the word up. That is also part of the reason I thought her text deserved some sort of reply.
She text me back early this morning: W: I appreciate a reply. You're right...it is very difficult.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
My W is the same. If I were point out a couple of things about my W, you probably going to nod in agreement of the similarities.
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
W: Would you like to stay for some dinner tomorrow after you drop the kids off?
I'm gonna tell her "No thanks I already have plans" which I do. Meeting a girl of a dating site.
I don't trust her. I'm not saying we have a chance but I'm not going to make it easy for her, thats not being punitive I'm just not at that place where I want what she seems to maybe want.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
As long as you are happy! ...she is for sure reaching out but she has done before and I second your reply all the way even though it seems mighty cold.
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
As long as you are happy! ...she is for sure reaching out but she has done before and I second your reply all the way even though it seems mighty cold.
F
Really? As in I should have worded it better?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
T, sounds like you're progressing. Just remember other people can do and say and be whatever they want, you don't have to be changed by that.
Your work is to be the best T you can be despite what's going on around you.
Good luck, always.
I forget that part, I find that I tend to be momentarily changed, like time stands still.
Thanks bug.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I think you were just being honest, so no! It couldnt have been worded better....but is still is a cold one. It's a WAS-sentence IMO but nothing wrong in that!
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
You worded it fine. Don 't second guess yourself. Now that you aren't as interested as you once were......watch out. She will test you to see if she can spark a little bit.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
