This is an emotional rollercoaster for sure. For both the MLCer and the LBS.
I realize that this whole situation is confusing. Including DB principals.
When to respond, how to respond, what to think, what not to think...
The thing with MLC...
While there really is nothing the LBS can do to "wake up" the MLCer, to make the process faster...
There ARE things that we can to do make the process slow down...
Those things include the obvious, pursuit, begging, etc...
And really the goal is to not make the crisis worse...
Answering a question like the one he asked you, is actually a positive thing...
Especially if you use a simple answer like Job provided.
Sure you might want to spill your guts and tell him everything, but that will be received as pressure by him...
You might want to ignore it and not answer...that will be viewed as you being angry or not caring and shutting him out of your life. (At some point you may need to do that but not right now).
Answering, with a little information (like as much as you would give the neighbor you wave at every morning who doesn't really know you) is a very safe answer because it is fairly neutral.
You aren't shutting him out but you aren't looking for a conversation that he isn't emotionally ready to handle.
So keep doing what you are doing, focusing on you and your S, and healing.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
